8 Secrets To Success & How They Relate To Youth Coaching / Parenting

By Joe Haefner

Here are the 8 secrets to success mentioned in the video:

  1. Passion
  2. Hard Work
  3. Get Good
  4. Focus
  5. Push Yourself
  6. Serve Others Value
  7. Ideas
  8. Persist

Is it a coincidence that passion is listed first?  I don’t think so and I think almost everybody would agree that being passionate about something is probably the first step in being successful.  If you’re passionate about something, it’s a lot easier to work hard, get good, focus, push yourself, serve others value, come up with ideas, and persist through the “CRAP”.

If this holds true, why do so many coaches and parents push their kids into organized sports, make them practice, and act like drill sergeants?  I don’t know about you, but this treatment would  most likely cause me to resent the sport rather than love it.

Do you think MJ would have loved basketball if his dad was yelling at him every day to get on the court and practice?

Let the kids develop their passion and help guide them to succeed.

When a parent loves doing something and makes that same activity enjoyable for the child, the child will be more likely to pick up that same passion.  Is it a coincidence that my dad and brother were coaches before me?  I don’t think so.

What do you think?


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  1. Brian — April 22, 2009 @ 4:24 pm

    Good points. I agree. I argue with parents and coaches all the time that passion comes first, but people do not want to agree.

  2. Joe Haefner — April 22, 2009 @ 8:38 pm

    Thanks, Brian. What is the best way to try to convince parents of this?

    Give examples of the elite athletes and how they progressed? State studies & research? Grab the parents and shake them?

    I know you have done the first two.

  3. Dmar — May 9, 2009 @ 5:40 pm

    Excellent points.

    A successful team is not just about winnng. It is more important to have the players play with passion and enthusiam, while improving their skills and having fun.

    Too many coaches take themselves way too seriously and assume that if they have a winning team it is because of their coaching skills.


  4. james — June 29, 2009 @ 8:27 am

    loved the c.r.a.p. analogy _ LOL!!!

    Some great life lessons there, ill pass that on to my kids

  5. When Did Steve Nash Start Playing Basketball? — July 16, 2009 @ 12:56 pm

    [...] Developed a passion himself – I can almost guarantee he wasn’t forced to practice by his parents. Do you think you would be passionate about something if you forced to do it? [...]

  6. danny95207 — January 1, 2011 @ 1:20 pm

    Great video . Really great them for the basketball coach . By the way , who is Nash ?

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  8. Christine — January 7, 2018 @ 12:35 pm

    My son is 15 and has even been to a bball camp in the USA. He always said if bball wasn’t fun he’d stop playing but he seems to be less passionate and am just wondering how I can help him.

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