Parenting Advice: Helping Your Kids Succeed By Not Helping

By Joe Haefner

Daniel Coyle who is the author of the Talent Code referenced this post from this article called Please Don’t Help My Kids on one of his recent blog posts.  I highly advise you read the quote reference below and check out the articles.  They offer some great advice on parenting and how to avoid over-parenting.

Dear Other Parents At The Park:Please do not lift my daughters to the top of the ladder, especially after you’ve just heard me tell them I wasn’t going to do it for them and encourage them to try it themselves.

I am not sitting here, 15 whole feet away from my kids, because I am too lazy to get up. I am sitting here because I didn’t bring them to the park so they could learn how to manipulate others into doing the hard work for them. I brought them here so they could learn to do it themselves.

They’re not here to be at the top of the ladder; they are here to learn to climb. If they can’t do it on their own, they will survive the disappointment. What’s more, they will have a goal and the incentive to work to achieve it. It is not my job — and it is certainly not yours — to prevent my children from feeling frustration, fear, or discomfort. If I do, I have robbed them of the opportunity to learn that those things are not the end of the world, and can be overcome or used to their advantage.

1 Comment

  1. Formule 1 — February 6, 2013 @ 11:28 am

    that right to help you children is not to help then

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