How Do You Handle The Heartache Of A Season-Ending Loss?

Yesterday my team lost. I felt soo bad. I told them that I'm soo sorry you guys did soo good.

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If you lose a game for your team let it go, It was my 1st time ever playing football our 4th or 5th game with 2:30 left in the 4th. I was An X Wideout. Our 1st 4th down Sluggo my way 20 yard throw and I cooked him. I caught that one. 2nd 4th down I had a go qb scrambled out hit me I almost dropped that one but somehow hung on. Coaches were so confident in me they threw it to me the next 3 plays. Pass was tipped by guy guarding me, drop and drop. I was so mad at myself that the next game I had 7 catches and 2 touchdowns. Let it go then change the feeling from feeling sorry for yourself to mad and kill the next team you play

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an hour ago my team lost against the pink team this was the finals. we were gonna get medals, trophies, and a jacket thta said our names on it. and it’s not even just that.. it’s the fact how we were ALL doing good throughout the month 0 losses but now when our last game came up it was a disaster. they were really good only bc this one girl carrying the team.. their defense was bad and so was BOTH OF our goalies. i don’t want to blame our goalie tho even though she stood there when the ball was rolling very slowly into the goal…anyways they were playing really rough too and i was giving my all towards the game but it just wasn’t enough..i feel i lost apart of me as soon as the ref blew the last whistle..that’s it we lost..our coach tried to cheer us up but we were all pissed but it’s alright there’s next year but here the thing next year i play with 15-17 year olds and that’s literally crazy like i’m gonna get NO minutes on the field but i’ll still do it this is recreational soccer btw and i’m 14

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Info says: 6/10/2022 at 3:39:28 PM Yes losses are tough and learning experiences. You recognize that your team was trying, but it just didn't all come together in that last game. As the article says you are lucky to be able to play a game that you love and you will be playing again next year (even though you move up a division). It sounds like your coach was there for the team at the end of the game and I am sure that everyone is proud of the accomplishment of a 0 loss month. It's where you go from here that will determine the type of player you will be in the future. Keep playing to the best of your ability and don't let this loss define you. Like     login   register

Now a lot of these comments are from a coach’s perspective. But I’m here to tell you about the perspective of a player who lost in an elimination game.

I am Mekayla, a first time player in 10U AYSO league.
I had won a 9:15-10:15 soccer game with the help of my team (purple) called the Strikers. Now the first game we had that morning was an elimination game and whoever won could later on play against another team in the afternoon. (4:30) We won the morning game, and were tired. The team we played at 4:30 had more time to rest as their game was earlier than ours. In the second game, we had been tied at the end of the fourth . Now since it was elimination, we had to do a shoot off. Our goalie (we’ll call them C.) is not our best goalie and is usually a forward. Our best goalie would be CL or L. Therefore, the shoot off stinked. The other team got an extra chance to score and we missed 3 times. It was 4-2. They only missed 1-2 shots! As this is my first team and I have no contact whatsoever with any of my teammates, I cried, okay? It’s okay to cry, right? Alright. Our coach said he was proud of us and others. I broke down into tears, and it was embarrassing, but who doesn’t? And in the shoot off, I was resting so I had no chance whatsoever to do anything about it. I was kicked off the field. What’s even worse is that one of my best friends in on the other team, and she knew I had a sprained ankle, but she continued to purposely step on it whenever possible. I wish I could redo that game, I would’ve changed everything..

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I just lost a game in extra innings 2-4, while i am only 12, this was devastating for me because it ended our season. we were an extremely good team but had an unlucky and bad game. I am now dealing with depression at the moment because i cant play again until fall and i truly love the sport, so yeah.

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Nate says: 5/13/2021 at 5:15:03 PM Hear that Colin, same thing here. However, that loss was 27 years ago. Like     login   register

We lost in double OT in our conference championship after being ranked number one in the country all but one week. It was devastating for me and the team. My talk at the end was nothing but positive and hit a lot of the points above. There were lots of tears and frustration from the players. but we had to focus as there was a bronze medal game the following day which nobody wanted to play but we had too. I could have easily put blame on players for not following our defensive priciples during the game that we had practiced all year.{ball side Help on dribble penetration} But what will that solve. That will be for the returning guys next year to remember the pain of the loss.

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When we qualify for the state tourney in California, we always tell our players that only one team wins the last game of the season. Everyone else loses their last game. I kinda puts in persepective the accomplishment of getting there.

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as an assistant coach to 17U,14U,12U and 10U it was difficult to see our junior team dropped from the quarterfinal after sweeping our elimination assignments. The 12U was worst as we were beaten in the semis. The aspirant was a heartbreaker missing the semis due to lowest quotient in the q''''final triple tie. The 10U missed the next round after losing 3 games in the elims.our head coach said he was proud of them all. i told them it is not the end of the world. we'll work harder this summer, join as many tournaments , so that when school opens, we're just as hard as rock and ready to get back at our tormentors.

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NICE

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Hi. Here is the message I put out today after our first round upset in the play offs:

Hi Guys. The banquet will be held at the civic center on March 27th. I don''t have the time yet. I will let you know as soon as I do.

Hey, what can I say? I thought you guys played a good game Sunday. Passing was good, defense was good. Everyone touched the ball and shot plenty of times. Everyone tried the best that they could and that''s all I (or anyone) can ask for. All you can do in life is just try the best you can. If you do that, then there is nothing to regret - nothing to look back on and say: "I should have done this, I should have done that". In sports, even though you try your best - you can lose a game. It happens all the time and you know what? It''s no big deal. All you can do is get up, practice your skills and try again. It''s nothing to get stressed out about and nothing to be upset about. The reality is last Sunday, the ball just didn''t fall in for us. It was in and out of the rim all day - not because lack of effort or teamwork...just bad luck.

Well, I hope you all had fun and enjoyed the season. You are a great bunch of kids and you all improved so much and did a great job . I had a great time teaching you. I hope to see all of you playing next season.

See you at the banquet.

Coach Joe.

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Our middle school girls lost in the second round of playoffs. Tough loss. Really bad refs. The school principal was there and I asked if he would say a couple of words. It made a HUGE difference for the girls to hear encouragement and that their principal was so proud of them. I think having any teacher or school official they really respect telling them how proud they are makes a big difference.

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this is good advice, i lost two games and my team was really down, your advice greatly helped.(kenya)

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