Sorry to read this. Hope your daughter stays interested in the game and you find a way to get involved going forward. From your posts, you seem very committed to teaching the game.

Best of luck to you.

Unfortunately, these kinds of things happen on teams sometimes. Shouldn't, especially with a rec league and 9/10 yr olds. Trust me, there's always someone on the sidelines that thinks they could do a better job. It's a whole different ballgame when you put on the coaching hat and have to deal though.

Sure hope you don't let this discourage you from staying involved with some aspect of coaching again. Agree with Coach Malik, you seem to have the heart of a coach.

Well if my daughter wants to continue I'll of course help her out, but I don't know if I'd volunteer to coach again. Not for basketball at least. It was becoming too difficult with my job. I'm a corporate accountant. January is very busy for me with the year end audit and preparing the financials and various other year end reports. I would be rushing 25 minutes after work to change and eat something, then another 20 minutes out to the gym. Then sometimes back home at 8:30 pm to shower and put in another couple hours of work at home. The good news is that the minor health related issues I was having are gone now. Must have been all stress related.

What bothered me most is I asked them both last year if they would help me this year. The one who yelled at me flatly said "no, I don't know anything about basketball". The other I had to practically beg all summer thru emails. I'm over it thou.

I don't think basketball is going to be my daughter's sport anyway. She's just so much slower than everyone else out there. She's already said she might not want to play next year. And I've told her that's okay. It's not important to Daddy that you play. It's important to play only if you enjoy it. Don't do it for me. That's not what I want for you.

So maybe she just plays softball then swimming in the winter. I have been able to teach her almost a perfect swing in softball. She even had a coach from the other team some up to her last season and tell her she had a perfect swing. She was excited to tell me. As long as you can hit in softball, they'll find a position for you.

Or maybe she doesn't play sports at all and goes the music route. She plays the upright double bass in her school orchestra. She's doing pretty good with that considering she's only been playing for about a year and a half now. I don't get to see her play much and I was blown away at the parent's night concert.

Regarding the team. They did finally win yesterday. First win of the year. The offense has changed slightly. They centered it around the one tall girl. She handles the ball and takes all the shots now. Which is fine I guess. It's just a city rec league.

I like the way you're talking. I'm a big advocate of playing multiple sports and being involved in other activities like you mentioned (i.e., music). I know Jeff and the other coaches that help out here agree. This just happens to be a site that focuses on basketball, but I guarantee if you search for posts about encouraging parents to get their kids in other activities besides basketball, you'll find a ton.

When my son was younger we coached soccer, flag football and basketball, so we were going year round (except summer) doing something. He dabbled in gymnastics and swimming, but his true passion (besides basketball) turned out to be herpetology (the study of reptiles and amphibians). Long story short, my son (18 now) and I have traveled the country in search of reptiles and amphibians which has been a great hobby we share together. It's taken us from sleeping on the border of Mexico in Texas to the Florida Everglades in search of pythons and gators.

I think it's our responsibility as parents to encourage, support and nurture our kids the best we can when they show interest in something. In the end, they just want us to spend time with them. It could be watching a concert or skipping rocks, I don't think they care as long as they get to spend time with us.

Appreciate you being honest and sharing your coaching experience with us.

Best,