Coaching Basketball: Establishing Discipline and Getting More Out of Your Players

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Consider this thought...

Don't punish, discipline with the intent to teach. Punishment for poor or inappropriate behavior only serves to fragment the teams focus and hinder their motivation. Not only that, it can cause kids to quit the team.

Instead, discipline with the intent to teach your players how to conduct themselves appropriately.

Rather than yell or punish players that aren't living up to their potential, ask them, "Is that the best you can do? Are you trying your hardest?" Often simply by acknowledging to you or to themselves that they're not trying their hardest, players will try harder, particularly if they know that you notice.

You'll find one of the toughest things as a coach (especially with young players) is keeping their attention and still keep things fun.

Most coaches really struggle with this and I'll tell you that most of them go about it all wrong.

Let me ask you a question.

Do you want your players to have fun and really enjoy themselves?

I would hope so. I certainly do.

Well, unbelievably, one of the best ways to get you players to enjoy themselves and get the most from this experience is by establishing the right kind of discipline.

That's right. Discipline, structure, accountability, and follow-through. Mean what you say!

Kids actually have more fun if they have some good discipline in place. They actually like the structure because it makes them feel more secure. They know what to expect and how to perform.

True, some will test you. Expect it! Be consistent and always mean what you say. If you tell your team that talking during a team meeting means a lap around the gym, then enforce it. Always and for everyone.

Have you ever watched the TV show Super Nanny?

It's funny because her teachings are really effective and reinforce many of the things I incorporate into basketball practices.

I recommend watching her TV show to help with your practices. But in the meantime, here are the things you need to do...

  1. Set rules

  2. Communicate those rules both verbally and in writing.

  3. Have a written schedule

  4. Have a written practice plan

  5. Follow through with your rules

It's actually quite simple but hardly anybody does it right.

Kids are smart. They know what they can get away with.

You must establish some very basic rules and expectations. You owe it to your players, their parents and especially to yourself. Do you really want to coach 20 kids without any discipline or structure in place?

When those rules are broken or expectations are not met, then there are consequences, every time. Not some of the time. Every time!

The behavior of your players will very quickly change if you are consistent with your discipline.

However, this is where most coaches screw up!

They let things slide here and there. They are not consistent in handing out discipline.

Most coaches (and parents for that matter) are continually giving our verbal threats to discipline. But there's rarely action behind their words.

Kids quickly pick up on this and will not listen to you. That's why there must be disciplinary action every time.

Don't be wishy-washy. And very soon, you won't even have to give out discipline because your players learned they can't get away with it.

To give you an idea, I like setting a precedent on the first day of practice. This works awesome!

When you're ready to start practice, you blow the whistle and tell the kids to bring it in.

It never fails. A few kids will hustle in and several others will mill around and slowly walk to you. And some might not even listen at all.

At this point, you immediately discipline them. I generally have them all get on the line and start running sprints. I run them pretty hard.

Then I blow the whistle and call them in again. Trust me, they sprint to me this time.

This is usually the last time I need to make them run for a long time. I might need to give them reminders on occasion. But they generally know I mean business and they learn what they can get away with.

I simply don't let them get away with things that are detrimental to themselves or our practice. And we still have tons of fun! Because that's what it's all about!

Now you might be worried about setting some discipline because you don't want to be the bad guy. And you want them to have fun.

I don't blame you.

Well, don't worry. They will actually like you even more after you get the discipline established.

Trust me. I've been there!

Here are some basic rules and disciplinary actions that have worked for me.

  • No talking when a coach is talking.

  • No lying. Period. There are very severe consequences for this.

  • Always be on time.

  • If you can't make practice always call.

  • Unsportsmanlike behavior is never acceptable.

It's also important to have a written schedule and some type of consistency. Kids enjoy the structure and it helps keep them in line.

You can also structure your practices with some regularity so that your players will know what to expect.

For example, if they know practice will probably start with some hard defense drills and then after 30 minutes they get 15 minutes of fun games that they really love.

The point is that it's important for you to get things under control, preferably right away.

If you're in the middle of your season, you can still have a "transition day" where you start fresh and give your players a brief surprise. Then stay consistent with your discipline from there on out.

Without the discipline, you'll be cutting your players short and struggling to reach your goals.




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Clay says:
2/21/2024 at 11:18:00 PM

Kids that young are like herding cats. Use the trick of pride. Do y’all want to see a {new move, task}? I just don’t know if y’all will be able to do it? They will argue that they can.

Do not continually force the player(s) not participating to participate. Keep going with the instructions and coaching the others and don’t spend too much time trying to get that one to join in.

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Alex Fatzinger says:
12/8/2023 at 2:15:09 PM

I am a first year coach for 7th grade. It feels like every day I am finding out about another player getting suspended. I'm struggling managing my team, teaching them fundamentals they are already struggling with while also having to worry about behavior all the time. I don't know how to respond when it is my whole team at this point.

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Max says:
2/19/2023 at 5:11:47 AM

I’m just starting my coaching career. I'm struggling with younger kids, 3-6 year olds to be exact. They just don't listen, some can't even stay in the class. Any helping ideas?

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Jeff says:
11/25/2020 at 3:48:35 PM

We have a high school boys basketball team. And 50 years, we’ve had zero winning seasons. Last five years we won two games. We have a halfway decent team this year, and it should be good for the next three or four years. Problem is, we can’t get down to play hard,They only know how to lose, one else can we do to make them understand they can be a winning team?

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Jeff says:
11/25/2020 at 3:48:33 PM

We have a high school boys basketball team. And 50 years, we’ve had zero winning seasons. Last five years we won two games. We have a halfway decent team this year, and it should be good for the next three or four years. Problem is, we can’t get down to play hard,They only know how to lose, one else can we do to make them understand they can be a winning team?

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K Love says:
12/6/2019 at 5:51:56 PM

Hello,

I coach a 9th grade team in an inner city school and I have a problem with my players always arguing with or yelling at each other. I understand that with a 9th grade only team, there is no established seniority like the various grades on varsity/JV teams, that would normally prevent arguments.

I'd like to hear your thoughts on this and appropriate disciplinary consequences for practice and in-game arguing. Hopefully disciplining in practice more will stop issues in games too.

Thanks

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Jeff Haefner says:
12/9/2019 at 7:19:52 AM

Coach - It will take time, consistency, persistence, and discipline on your part to make head way and work toward creating a better culture. I can't say I have ever dealt with a situation like this... other coaches might be better suited to answer.

I have not been in a situation to that extent... I can't imagine I would tolerate any of that ever. The second it happened in my practice, shit would hit the fan. I don't know if it would work... but when something happens that is unacceptable, I just don't tolerate it at all. Kids learn real quick. I don't have a lot of rules. But there are certain things that just don't happen.

I would immediately explain my stance so we're all on same page. Then the second it happens again, those players are sitting out. Just sitting there. Or maybe I would make them sprint for a long time. It just depends.

The bench can be a powerful motivator.

If players yell at each other or a ref during a game, they are on the bench. Period. Not gonna happen on my watch. Talk to each other in a professional way when you are on the court.

Kids will test boundaries. If you are very consistent, they will learn very quickly what they can get away with.

Once you establish some discipline, take interest in your players. Show them you truly care about them. Once they realize you love them and will do anything for them, they will run through walls for you.

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Ivan says:
11/12/2019 at 8:19:20 AM

Hi, I have a problem with kids being lazy, I try everything but they run at maybe 20% of their maximum, not always but most of the times, wgat can I do to change that?? Talking about kids that are 13 years old

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Jeff says:
11/12/2019 at 3:49:30 PM

Here are a few ideas that might help:
https://www.breakthroughbasketball.com/mental/motivate-players.html

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Coach H says:
11/7/2019 at 1:15:45 PM

Ok so I have been Coaching Boys BB HS/8th graders this being my 25th yr. I have team rules like most coaches one being a player must have his hair off his ears/eyes or they won''t get into a game until they cut it. NOT A SCHOOL RULE BUT ONE OF MY TEAMS RULES.
Well in 25 yrs. of this rule I have never had a problem with it till this yr. I have a young man who said he wasn''t going to cut his, I simply said then you won''t play in a game till you do. Never kicked him off team, just he can''t play till he follows my team rule. His dad then contacted the school and said he would sue the school if I did this.
My AD understands but now is going to allow the kid to wear a sweat band so he doesn''t have to get his hair cut.
I truly don''t know what to do now. Do I stick to my Rules or let this one kid get his way. I have 18 other players/parents that have no problem with my rule.

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Jeff Haefner says:
11/12/2019 at 4:04:51 PM

I would think you'd need to listen to your AD and I'm not sure he/she is giving you a choice?

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Arianne says:
10/12/2022 at 8:36:52 PM

In this day and age and only in 8th grade you have no right to tell someone how they can have their hair. If they have it long, just tell them they have to hold it back. This is not the military. Focus on the game not the hair.

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Marcia says:
10/24/2019 at 5:30:13 PM

Concern: I have a freshman daughter joining basketball. The coach is making the other girls run if someone misses practice. I am completely on board with discipline and rules. We are talking about high school girls. This rule is causing riff in the team. I would think that the coach would want them to get along not be at each other if someone misses. Not sure if I should get involved or let them work it out. The team has a group text which I can see on my daughters phone. I feel like this is causing a lot of unnecessary drama.

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Jeff Haefner says:
10/26/2019 at 7:49:31 AM

This is tough and as a male coach, I honestly don't know the best approach. I have seen female teams get along amazing. Sportsmanship and teamwork like you wouldn't believe. And I have seen others where it's just drama. When I'm around, I just wouldn't put up with it and I emphasize teamwork and attitude from day 1. But I also know kids are smart and they'll do things outside of practice that I have no vision of. I have to say, I have been lucky with the girls teams I have coached. They have been awesome and so much fun to coach!!

From the parents side, if I felt the coach was open to communication, and I thought I could talk to the coach in a very "helpful" way... I might give them a "heads up". I might just the coach know about the drama. I would NOT tell the coach what to do. That would only cause trouble. I would just give a "heads up... just in case you were' already aware". Or ask the coach for advice... "I noticed some drama and was looking for advice". I don't know if asking for advice in this case works, but generally that is a way to communicate with a coach without pissing them off. Coaches are so used to parents trying to tell them how to do their job, complaining to them, and so on. That if why often times coaches have their walls built up... and they immediately think a parent is about to start complaining if they conversation starts out a certain way. So they sometimes just completely shut out that parent... they don't want to hear any of it. That is just something to be careful of.

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Emily says:
3/2/2019 at 4:38:02 PM

Hello-
Looking for some advice - my 11 year old son has had a coach this year without a plan, set discipline, respect for himself or others. It's been a frustrating and not so fun year as expected.

The coach yells at the boys often and is easily frustrated, but today during a game it was taken a bit too far - in my opinion. After getting frustrated with my son for "taking it to the corner", which I never saw and neither did my 15 year old son who played traveling A team in middle school, the coach took a time out and yelled at my son. The first half finished and my son was sitting on the bench getting a drink of water trying not to cry because he said he was truly trying his best and not taking it to the corner but he wasn't going to argue with the coach. The coach proceeded to come over to the bench, knelt down, placed both his hands on each side of my sons head and was in his face telling my son not to be disrespectful and asked my son if he understood. Of course by this time my son was crying as this is also taking place in front of the bleacher section and once he was crying the coach proceeded to hold on to his head speaking in his face that he was fine...

As a parent I don't feel comfortable with this type of adult behavior, especially because the coach has never established clear expectations but gets extremely frustrated when things are going the way he thinks they should be going. If my son is being that disrespectful I would appreciate a conversation because respect if very important in our family. If my son truly isn't being that disrespectful and hence that is why my I haven't been approached by the coach, I feel it's his behavior that is in question.

I've been at every game and practice but (2) and I haven't ever seen / heard my son be disrespectful. I'm certainly not saying that it isn't a possibility as he is an 11 year old boy, but I haven't ever witnessed it because if I had I would have dealt with it immediately.

What are your thoughts from a coaching perspective?

Thanks in advance

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Jeff Haefner says:
11/12/2019 at 4:09:04 PM

After things settle down, you could ask the coach what he saw.

But on the surface, from what I'm reading in this post, it does not sound like effective youth coaching in my opinion. It's hard for me to give an opinion without actually seeing the event, but just based on what I'm reading... it is very rare you should yell at a kid for making a mistake on the court. How does that help anything? Instead teach. Or if a player is not listening, put them on the bench and calmly explain why.

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Katie Jo says:
10/21/2021 at 10:29:48 PM

To me, this is physical assault. I would never touch a player in anger. Coaches should not touch athletes, especially youth athletes, without their consent. You can offer a high five or maybe a hug, but they have the right to refuse. Grabbing your child's head is aggressive and clearly distressing to your child.

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