Why You Should Listen?
As parents our desire is to control our children’s choices especially when it comes to making a college decision. This desire is only natural when it involves people you love, but it must be controlled, nonetheless. Steve and Lori Zeller had three sons that were Mr. Indiana basketball players and were highly recruited. They learned quite a bit through their first experience with Luke to know things not to do during the recruiting process. That experience guided them to make their home a safe haven for Tyler and Cody to express themselves as they figured out the best college to attend. Making this decision can be very stressful and challenging for young men and women to make. Steve and Lori discuss developing the proper mindset in regard to parenting with your children and making their passions flourish rather than controlling them to fit into your own plans.
It is important once your child makes their college choice that you realize as a parent it is no longer your job to carry them through their challenges. As parents it’s important to know both your own role and roles of others in the lives of your children. Attempting to play every role in your children’s lives is a form of coddling and ultimately reflects your desire to control every situation, thus stunting their own maturation. Part of being a parent is allowing coaches to be coaches. Our society needs more of a let them go mentality. It’s difficult for parents to sit on the sidelines and allow the game to unfold, but it is a part of letting go. It is up to your children to take everything you have taught them into the world and handle adversity on their own. A loss of control can actually become something that propels everyone to the next level if hardship is approached with the right attitude.
Steve and Lorri Zeller (parents of Luke, Tyler, and Cody Zeller) provide an inside look, in their book “Raising Boys The Zeller Way,” at the principles they implemented in their household. Luke, Tyler, and Cody each finished at the top of their high school class, won Indiana’s famed Mr. Basketball award, went on to play basketball at Division I universities, and play in the NBA. But most importantly, they have turned out to be high character people.
In this Podcast, Steve and Lori give tips on how parents can make sure that the recruiting process doesn’t control their children. They will also give you strategies how to support your child through the challenges they will face participating in college athletics. The Zeller’s help us understand that parenthood gives us the greatest responsibility in the world but also the greatest opportunity to give something to the world. Parents need to realize it is more important to be remembered for not what we did, but rather for what our children become.
There is so much great information throughout this interview. Our hope is this podcast will give parents the tools to guide and support their children through the recruiting process and allow them to support and enjoy their college experiences!
Enjoy this episode of The Jim Huber Show!
What You will Hear In This Podcast
- 0:25- “Hoosier Hysteria” What is the Hatchet House
- 2:08- The Impact that Luke Zeller and a Bus Driver had on Each Other
- 4:21- Luke Writes a Letter in Support of his Coach to Finish what he Started
- 5:38- The story of “The Shot” that is Legendary in Indiana High School Basketball
- 8:30- What Luke did After “The Shot” to Make his Parents Most Proud
- 9:21- A North Carolina Tar Heel Tradition to get Kids to Realize it is not About Them
- 10:03- Meeting Coach John Wooden at the McDonald’s All-American Game
- 12:08- Coach Wooden Willing to give up 2 National Championship Rings for 1 Indiana State Championship Ring
- 12:35- A Story that Emphasizes Coach Wooden’s Character
- 13:47- The Inspiring Story of Seth Coy Overcoming Challenges and Obstacles to Play Division I Basketball
- 16:18- The Impact of Seth Coy’s Life Transforming the Washington, Indiana Community
- 17:40- How Zellers Handle Luke not Playing at Notre Dame After Being a McDonald’s All-American
- 19:09- Encouraging Your Children to Visit with their Coach About any Issues
- 20:22- Advice to Parents who Want to Pick up the Phone and Call their Child’s College Coach
- 21:01- Steps that Parents Should Take in Communicating with their Child’s High School Coach
- 22:14- The most Effective way for Parents and Children to go Through the Recruiting Process
- 23:45- The Need to Control Recruiting Instead of it Controlling You
- 24:26- Homework and Preparation Needed Before Taking a College Visit
- 25:25- Questions Your Child Should ask a College Coach During the Recruiting Process
- 26:30- How Cody Zeller got Tom Crean to Cry on making his College Choice
- 28:18- The Best Ways to Help your Children make their College Decision
- 31:30- Steve Zeller felt the Importance of Visiting with the President of the University
- 32:18- A Near Death Experience that made Steve Realize he Fulfilled his Responsibility as a Father to Build Character in his Children
- 34:19- Most Courageous thing Steve did as a Child that was a Stepping Stone to his Relationship with God
- 35:29- Parents have a great Opportunity to give a Gift to the World with Raising your Children Appropriately
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