{"id":324,"date":"2015-12-01T13:41:37","date_gmt":"2015-12-01T13:41:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/hubershow\/?p=324"},"modified":"2019-01-31T15:19:32","modified_gmt":"2019-01-31T15:19:32","slug":"blog06","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/blog06\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Get Parents to Join the Team, Not Destroy the Team"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In general, coaches would rather not have to deal with the parents.\u00a0 They would like to keep them as far away as possible to not spend time with issues that arise due to frustration with team placement after tryouts, lack of playing time and their child\u2019s role on the team.\u00a0 In today\u2019s society, coaches need to realize that it is inevitable that parents are going to get involved.\u00a0 It can be disappointing because the parents are enabling their children by not allowing them to grow through the challenges they face.\u00a0 Coaches need to realize that it is only a matter of time when it is going to happen.\u00a0 Even today, it is crazy to think that Coach K is getting calls from parents.\u00a0 So, you can imagine what is happening on the high school level.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/hubershow\/13\/\">In interview #13 of The Jim Huber Show<\/a>, Jon Gordon discussed how a program can build a winning culture.\u00a0 He firmly believes that to have a successful culture you need to get your parents feeling a part of it.\u00a0\u00a0 So you should consider them support staff and members of your team to get them to buy in and believe.\u00a0 They are a part of your culture whether you like it or not, because parents are going to influence their children at home in a good or bad way.<\/p>\n<p>Get them to be part of the culture early on so that they feel a part of it.\u00a0 Jon is a big believer in having an initial meeting before the season begins.\u00a0 In this meeting you need to equip them with everything they need to know about the program.\u00a0 Here is a list of possible items to discuss.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Values<\/li>\n<li>Standards of behavior<\/li>\n<li>Expectations<\/li>\n<li>Vision of Your Culture<\/li>\n<li>Challenges and Obstacles That Can Occur<\/li>\n<li>Consequences for Student-Athletes Making Decisions Against Your Culture<\/li>\n<li>No Negativity &amp; Energy Vampires<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Don\u2019t just rely on the initial meeting to keep your parents bought into your culture throughout the season.\u00a0 It is very important to create a form of weekly communication.\u00a0 Let them know that there is an open channel to visit about anything regards to the program\u2019s culture.\u00a0 You need to let them know that doesn\u2019t include conversations about your child\u2019s playing time or about other kid\u2019s performance.\u00a0\u00a0 The majority of Coaches don&#8217;t like to talk to parents about playing time.\u00a0 I encourage players and parents to not mention playing time in the conversation. \u00a0It would be \u00a0beneficial to talk about ways they can become a better player, how they can help the team succeed or assist in strengthening the culture. \u00a0It would not be a bad idea to have more than one meeting throughout the year.\u00a0 This will allow you to keep everyone committed to protecting the culture.<\/p>\n<p>Jon has seen leaders have tremendous success by getting the parents informed and getting them to think more positive.\u00a0 You will be amazed by how they will be a part of your culture and support it when you include them in the process.\u00a0\u00a0 For this to happen make sure that you are transparent and up front from the beginning.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/hubershow\/13\/\">Click here to listen to Jon Gordon&#8217;s interview on The Jim Huber Show<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In general, coaches would rather not have to deal with the parents.\u00a0 They would like to keep them as far away as possible to not spend time with issues that arise due to frustration with team placement after tryouts, lack of playing time and their child\u2019s role on the team.\u00a0 In today\u2019s society, coaches need [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=324"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":667,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324\/revisions\/667"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=324"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=324"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthroughbasketball.com\/podcast\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=324"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}